What is a Romance?
A schism seems to be growing among romance readers and authors these days over what does or does not constitute a romance. One side of this discussion adheres to the traditional definition, which is that a romance is a tale involving a man and a woman in events which lead to adventurous happenings and culminates in a happy ending. The opposite view, one that has evolved in the last ten years or so, is that a romance is a story which concentrates solely on the emotional involvement of the hero and heroine. The first allows for creation of setting, character and complex action while building a relationship that progresses to sensual accord and, finally, love. The second requires constant association of the hero and heroine and the exploration of their intense sexual rapport. Readers of the first type enjoy the mental stimulation of a plot which may include well-researched historical or contemporary incidents and political machinations against a backdrop of authentic sights and sounds. Readers of the second care little for accurate depiction of settings or events but enjoy the emotional stimulation of high dramatics and titillating and/or explicit love scenes.
The inevitable result of this difference of opinion is that many of those judging contests or writing critiques for other purposes are raising the cry of, “This is not a romance!” The question I ask is: Who says it isn’t? By whose standard are they judging?
A romance is a story wherein the main focus is the relationship between the hero and heroine--be that relationship social, political, historical, emotional, physical or any and all these things. Within these parameters, the events which carry the story forward can be as different as the writer creating it. Attempting to narrow the definition of a romance to suit one’s own preference is a good way to kill off the genre completely. The best romances, best stories of any kind, are written by those who are freest to make them what they will.
“I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren’t even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they’re doing it.”
--Anne Lamott